Being unaware of what I actually wanted to do in my life, all I knew I enjoyed maths, science, and electronics. The obvious choice for me was Electrical Engineering. I got fantastic results at GCSE and very proud of my achievements I made during this time when things could have been so different.
Adulthood seemed to come around so quickly as I turned up at college seemly being funneled down the education route. A decision was made after 1 year at 6th form college that I would quit and join an apprenticeship. One of the best decisions I made as it gave me the hands-on skills that were required while still studying for my degree. At this point, I thought this is what I wanted. A trade that would be well paid to support my future family.
As we all know, life isn’t so straightforward.
Meeting Kylie during a walk home from a part time job I had during the first year of the course, my life would never be the same again. Driving past in her car, she had become friends with some of my school friends so when they stopped. After reconnecting, we started to hang out and it was on Kylie’s 18th birthday we entered a relationship. Within 1 year, we got the news that I guess most 18 years would fear the most. We were going to become parents at the fresh age of 19. Although it was a shock, Kylie and I have never looked back and we were blessed with our son, Theo. This gave me more drive and desire to provide for them and become that Engineer would support our family.
I successfully went through the apprenticeship providing for our young family finally becoming a qualified electrical tradesman. I honestly believed our life’s direction was going exactly as planned. Every year as we grew would become easier. I would get a pay rise and things would be ok.
I lived in believing this story up until I made it to an Electrical Engineer. Having successfully completed a first class degree, the career goal had finally come true. It was then we were blessed by our 2nd child, Harper, and our beautiful family was complete. Life had become exactly as we visioned it but something was missing. Something wasn’t right.
It suddenly dawned on me that this pattern for this life is like so many others. We accept living in the tradition life and try our best to make ends meet. As our wages grew, so did our expenses. I realized nobody throughout my entire education actually taught me about money and how to manage it. Somehow we just going from month to month waiting to be paid again.
This was the moment I was “plugged out the matrix”, I snapped and I told myself I will not live like this anymore! I was working hard, I had missed seeing Theo growing up from a baby as I was studying hard and going to work, I decided was not going to do the same with Harper. I was now seeking an opportunity to do something extraordinary in my life. To be with my family every day and for as long as I want.
To be with my family every day and for as long as I want. This is what truly made me feel fulfilled and happy. Not the significance of the job title.
Unfortunately, without knowing it we joined the rat race. The rat race is going from pay check to pay check trying to support our lifestyle and expense. I had to look somewhere else to make a change in my life.