If you want to change anything in your life then this is the program for you. Have you ever wondered how you can stop binge eating? Have you ever wondered how you can stop smoking or drinking? No matter what change in your life or habit you want to break, this program can help you understand most importantly WHY you do the things you do?
Once you know why you do things in your life, you can literally change your life forever. Find out how below....
The depth of information given in each of the CD's you get and the workbook is incredible. It will require you to go through the exercises and most likely recap each day again and again as you put the knowledge into practice. One of the reasons for me sharing everything I learn allows me to consume it once more and embed into my own knowledge and skills.
Below are the 7 steps you will go through in this program...
Before you can influence yourself or others, you must first learn what influences yourself or them.
Before you change or get a person to change you must first find the leverage that will impact them.
Before you change a habit, you must first interrupt the pattern of our daily lives.
The problem of doing something that is not empowering you must first be defined in a way which allows you to see it as solvable.
You cant just stop a habit. It must be replaced with something else but you must be careful what you change it with. Make it empowering.
Once you have made created and started an empowering alternative, you must condition it to prevent you turning back to your older ways.
Then to finally create lasting change, you must look at your environment and make it support your new empowering way of life.
If this isn't done correctly, no change will occur so day 3 after the overview of the 7 master steps, we begin to go through the steps in detail starting with the first.
To influence yourself or anybody else, you must first know what influences them and what human needs they or you are trying to fulfill. Each of us try to fill all the human needs, however there are 2 preferred higher than all others.
Here are the 6 Human Needs:
1. Certainty - You need to know you can avoid pain and gain pleasure.
2. Uncertainty (Variety) - You need change in your life, new experience.
3. Significance - The feeling of importance and needed.
4. Love / Connection - A feeling of closeness or union with somebody or something.
5. Growth - The expansion of knowledge, skill, wealth, capacity, or capability. Moving forward.
6. Contribution - Helping, giving or supporting others.
For example, we all want variety in our lives, however, some of us prefer the sense of security and certainty in our lives that bills will be paid.
This is a part of the 7 elements of Guiding Force in the program where we learn about Global Belief Systems, our Identities, our Values, Rules, and Vehicles.
We can learn everything we need to know about somebody by asking questions and understanding what needs they are trying to match.
For example, ask these questions and think about the answers you get, what needs are being matched?
What is life about? Example Answer: Being with family and enjoying life - Needs being met = Love / Connection
What is freedom for you? Example Answer: The love of traveling and being in multiple locations - Needs being met = Variety
Who are you really? Example Answer: Someone that helps and cares for others - Need being met = Contribution.
Who are you at work? Example Answer: I'm the leader - Needs being met = Significance
Once we know the 2 Human Needs someone is trying to match more than others, we can go to step 2.
To get leverage, you must first build that Rapport with someone and we learn all the different techniques we can use. We can do this by story telling for example as people can relate more closely but there a number of different methods.
To change any behavior, we learned about the MEANING TRIAD. What does something mean when it happens? For example, when someone uses abusive language, we all immediately associate a meaning to it?
This is useful when it comes to obtaining Leverage to guide somebody to change as we learn how to use framing. This allows us to show the person that if this behavior continues it can lead to not having the Human Needs they value the most. Once we have done this, we can go to Step 3.
There are 3 types of Framing:
1. Pre-Framing - Telling someone what to pay attention to and what it means to them. For example educating children that smoking is bad. This tells them the meaning before even trying.
2. Re-Framing - Someone already has a problem and you must get them to see it in a different way.
3. De-Framing - When someone is already in a particular element and it needs to be destroyed.
The 4 Keys To Framing:
1. Rapport - No one will ever listen to you without it.
2. Questions - Asking questions is always best.
3. Interrupt the Pattern - Next step
4. Change The Physiology - Without them knowing.
Make the interrupt as shocking as possible and the person will then be in a position to listen and absorb new information. They are a number of ways to do this which is explained very well in the program but below are just some ways:
1. Using something outside what is usually acceptable. Talking about sex or being gross or confusing. This will confuse the person you are talking to.
2. Changing the physiology of a person by movement, temperature or pressure. Think about when you jump in cold water, you are paying attention then 🙂
Once the pattern is interrupted, you can go to Step 4.
We can again use problem-solving questions such as:
What can I learn from this?
How can I enjoy the process of this?
This is where we learned about our primary question. There is one question that we all ask ourselves each day even if you are not aware of it.
This question has the following criteria:. Think about your own. An example maybe "How can I improve Here?".
1.You ask it consistently.
2. You believe if you live by this question, you’re fulfilling the purpose of your life.
3. If you don’t live by this question, you believe that you will be in massive pain, perhaps even a life or death – survival instinct question.
4. Your identity is often tied to the question.
Once you are aware of the question, you can begin to understand more clearly why you do the things that you do.
There are many ways it can be made empowering such as using different language daily.
Say things like you are feeling OUTSTANDING inside of just I'm good. Believe you are LEARNING and not failing!
One example I have used in my life is instead of junk food eating, I know use my Nutribullet to have fruits daily with honey. This has been an empowering alternative because it directly supports my vision for my body. Not the pain of being unhealthy and being overweight. 🙂
When you are in an intense state, you will link to anything unique that is happening consistently at the time.
There are many types of anchors such as touch, sound, smell and visual.
One of the best conditioning techniques that have helped me is visualization. I find it so powerful to condition yourself envisioning the new future you are working towards.
In the program, Tony shares incantations which are when you are fully engaged with your entire nervous system which the full force of your focus and you speak out loud an empowering phrase. A couple examples below:
"Everyday in every way I'm getting stronger and stronger"
"All I need is within me now"
Tony goes through different things you can do such as removing any temptation in your household for example.
If you're struggling with junk food, get it out the house and don't buy it to be tempted again.
One of the major techniques here though is peer groups. I'm a huge fan of masterminds.
Being involved in a mastermind or having an accountability buddy can help you stay on track with your new way of life.
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